Validation, basically meaning recognition or declaration that a person’s feelings or/and ideas are worthy. It can also mean seeking others approval. But do we really need to be approved by others? Doesn’t every human has a different mind with different views?
We live in the world of HYPOCRISY. We see and hear people making wise statements daily but never notice the hypocrisy in that. I read the quote “Finding oneself in the approval of others is called “self murder” ‘. If that’s so then why do the same people seek approval. I’m not complaining about hearing someone’s opinions or suggestions. We should respect everyone’s views regardless we agree or not. But don’t let others views put you down. At the end every person is different with an individual mind. If it wasn’t the case then every place would be ‘Land Of Cards’ like in the story of Rabindranath Tagore’s “Tashar Desh”. We are our own masters because it is said ‘Life Is Too Valuable To Live Like Everyone Else’.
Insecurity and criticism are the root causes of validation. It’s not wrong to criticize yourself as a person is the worst critic of himself but it’s not fine either to criticize yourself all the time. Criticism is well explained in my blog. Similarly, insecurity can put you in the same situation. And, when a person is insecure, he goes for validation to rectify the solution.
Just keep in mind, you can be your worst critic but that shouldn’t let others to validate you. I agree some people need to be validated but if your thoughts aren’t respected and are ridiculed, it’s okay. But if your thoughts are against society and are against humanity then you have no right to seek or even expect validation.
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True beauty comes from inner glow…
This popular saying originates a long time ago. One of the most popular theme among classic authors and poets which we all cherish has a really deep meaning. What may be ugly for you, may be attractive for others and vice versa. Beauty is perception. Perception is point of view. The degree and definition of attractiveness varies not only among different cultures, countries but also person to person. Beauty is not only outer beauty but aldo beauty of mind, heart and soul. The concept of beauty being a perception can be understood by different beauty standards around the world. For example- Korean beauty standards identify a perfect women to be skinny, fair skinned and have large eyes whereas perfect women in Africa are expected to be curvy with big breasts and wide hips.
This quote doesn’t only revolve around physical appearance of the humans but also other beings and things.
Some paintings from famous artists may appear silly or out of nowhere to most of the people but a person paying thousands or even millions for it sees the beauty of the art created, what the artist is trying to convey.
It may seem that another saying, “Don’t Judge a Book By It’s Cover” is a tributary of the given saying. It may be rectifying the wrong meaning taken by the people. The former saying may not only imply for physical beauty but also the inner beauty as it is well said that true beauty comes from inner glow. Whereas, the latter only talks about the physical appearance. It also conveys the idea of not to be judgemental.
Your beauty is not only in the eyes of the other person as a beholder but you as a beholder. Successful people say,” Make Them Look Through Your Eyes”. Similarly, if you don’t see the beauty in yourself, then don’t expect the other person to see it. Self hatred is the most unattractive thing about a person. And, if a person tries to show the beauty in you, don’t become self obsessed but try to accept it with dignity.
As we all know that physical beauty doesn’t last forever, be beautiful at heart, mind and soul.
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