All it requires is the Will Power

We can define will power as a virtue that gives you strength to exert your will or be at a place figuratively you want to be at.

Will power is just like a muscle, which you need to exercise and build it. It is really important to strengthen it as will power is key to success. Will power and mind are really closely related. And if you want to achive success don’t let your mind control you rather control your mind and for the access to the mind you need the key called will power.

The level of in-built willpower varies person to person. It is completely understandable that every person can’t be mentally strong. Sometimes, some circumstances or experiences give you either the strength and willpower to survive or go through anything or completely destroy you and takes away all the strength to deal with anything. When you aren’t able to handle things, this is the time when you need to work on yourself. This is the magical mantra of happy life.

Be the PROTAGONIST of your own life.

Sometimes it is important to manipulate your mind and build enough guts to pursue the things you need to. Just keep telling yourself that you need to do this and don’t quit. It maybe feels hard but it makes things so much easier for future.

Building willpower requires a lot of courage. One should build up enough courage yo handle themselves well cause you won’t have someone or the other to wipe your tears each time because there is no point in gaining sympathy.

If you want something, work for it and earn it.

 

 

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Do We Really Need Validation?

Validation, basically meaning recognition or declaration that a person’s feelings or/and ideas are worthy. It can also mean seeking others approval. But do we really need to be approved by others? Doesn’t every human has a different mind with different views?

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We live in the world of HYPOCRISY. We see and hear people making wise statements daily but never notice the hypocrisy in that. I read the quote “Finding oneself in the approval of others is called “self murder” ‘. If that’s so then why do the same people seek approval. I’m not complaining about hearing someone’s opinions or suggestions. We should respect everyone’s views regardless we agree or not. But don’t let others views put you down. At the end every person is different with an individual mind. If it wasn’t the case then every place would be ‘Land Of Cards’ like in the story of Rabindranath Tagore’s “Tashar Desh”. We are our own masters because it is said ‘Life Is Too Valuable To Live Like Everyone Else’.

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Insecurity and criticism are the root causes of validation. It’s not wrong to criticize yourself as a person is the worst critic of himself but it’s not fine either to criticize yourself all the time. Criticism is well explained in my blog. Similarly, insecurity can put you in the same situation. And, when a person is insecure, he goes for validation to rectify the solution.

Just keep in mind, you can be your worst critic but that shouldn’t let others to validate you. I agree some people need to be validated but if your thoughts aren’t respected and are ridiculed, it’s okay. But if your thoughts are against society and are against humanity then you have no right to seek or even expect validation.

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Happy Reading 🙂

 

The New Beginning

                    Today, I turned a new leaf.

 The fire burning in my soul is finally extinguished.

             It did leave burns, It did leave marks.

  The damage caused is irreversible. But this doesn’t

                     mean it can’t be repaired.

           Once upon a time, I was a strong girl.

Hurricane, flood, nothing could wipe that strength away from me.

But, all of the sudden I found myself surrounded with dark clouds,

                The dark clouds of melancholia.

I was lost, fighting each second, to find my way out.

       It seemed as if all my efforts went in vain.

It felt as if I was thrown into the sea, not knowing how to swim.

                           I felt suffocated.

                There was avalanche of panic.

              But no one was there to save me.

                  I was alone, all to myself.

           No one could save me but myself.

I put myself together and escaped from the cage of utmost

                              dismay.

I experienced depression, insomnia,loneliness and

                           self-hatred.

          But it failed to break me apart

       Because today, I turned a new leaf.

 

Why Is It So Hard to Accept Criticism?

What is right? What is wrong? Is criticism same as right and wrong….

“Critism”- not an unpopular word these days. This word emerged in English during 17th century. The word has been derived from the French word “critique”.Critism is basically judging one’s good and bad points. It can be positive as well as negative. Is critism important? Sometimes, its true and we should learn to accept it. Everyone has a different point of view. What may be right for you may be wrong for the other and vice versa.

One can say right and wrong are just theories. To be more scientific they are “normative theories of ethics“. Accepting criticism can be linked to the theory of right and wrong to a certain level.

Basically, we criticise a person when we think that the person is not doing something according to our ethics or simply our ideology. But at the same time that person is doing something right according to his ideology. Right and wrong are just illusions. 

We can understand it better by taking the example of killing. Killing is wrong. But when we kill a mosquito or lion kills a deer its not wrong. But if a human kills a human then its wrong. If a person kills endangered species, its illegal and wrong but if a person kills a chicken its right. 

From this we can conclude that right and wrong aren’t part of nature but an ideology or maybe a theory.

A person should listen to other’s point of view but should not blindly follow it. Analyze them but don’t get influenced by them. What makes sense will be kept in mind and rest won’t matter.

Similarly, one should accept criticism to a certain degree. Don’t be demoralized by it. Think over it and use the theory of right and wrong by your ideology.
PS: this article is right according to me but some people won’t agree.
Happy Reading 🙂