Do We Really Need Validation?

Validation, basically meaning recognition or declaration that a person’s feelings or/and ideas are worthy. It can also mean seeking others approval. But do we really need to be approved by others? Doesn’t every human has a different mind with different views?

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We live in the world of HYPOCRISY. We see and hear people making wise statements daily but never notice the hypocrisy in that. I read the quote “Finding oneself in the approval of others is called “self murder” ‘. If that’s so then why do the same people seek approval. I’m not complaining about hearing someone’s opinions or suggestions. We should respect everyone’s views regardless we agree or not. But don’t let others views put you down. At the end every person is different with an individual mind. If it wasn’t the case then every place would be ‘Land Of Cards’ like in the story of Rabindranath Tagore’s “Tashar Desh”. We are our own masters because it is said ‘Life Is Too Valuable To Live Like Everyone Else’.

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Insecurity and criticism are the root causes of validation. It’s not wrong to criticize yourself as a person is the worst critic of himself but it’s not fine either to criticize yourself all the time. Criticism is well explained in my blog. Similarly, insecurity can put you in the same situation. And, when a person is insecure, he goes for validation to rectify the solution.

Just keep in mind, you can be your worst critic but that shouldn’t let others to validate you. I agree some people need to be validated but if your thoughts aren’t respected and are ridiculed, it’s okay. But if your thoughts are against society and are against humanity then you have no right to seek or even expect validation.

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Happy Reading 🙂

 

The New Beginning

                    Today, I turned a new leaf.

 The fire burning in my soul is finally extinguished.

             It did leave burns, It did leave marks.

  The damage caused is irreversible. But this doesn’t

                     mean it can’t be repaired.

           Once upon a time, I was a strong girl.

Hurricane, flood, nothing could wipe that strength away from me.

But, all of the sudden I found myself surrounded with dark clouds,

                The dark clouds of melancholia.

I was lost, fighting each second, to find my way out.

       It seemed as if all my efforts went in vain.

It felt as if I was thrown into the sea, not knowing how to swim.

                           I felt suffocated.

                There was avalanche of panic.

              But no one was there to save me.

                  I was alone, all to myself.

           No one could save me but myself.

I put myself together and escaped from the cage of utmost

                              dismay.

I experienced depression, insomnia,loneliness and

                           self-hatred.

          But it failed to break me apart

       Because today, I turned a new leaf.

 

Every Cloud Has A silver Lining

‘Every cloud has a silver lining’- the most contradictory idiom, according to me. It is one of the most popular sayings which means never lose hope, difficult today leads to better tomorrow. The origin of the idiom traces back to 1634 and was given by John Milton.

After this, so many similar meaning idioms came such as, ‘After storm comes the calm’, ‘whatever happens, happens for good’,’every negative occurrence has a positive aspect to it’ etc.

Well those bad times can be well compared to the clouds.But sometimes those dark clouds just lead to a big storm which leaves huge destruction. The destruction caused is irrevocable. Even if it could be reverse, it just takes a lot of time and sometimes leaves permanent damage.  The damage caused is heartbreaking and sometimes leads to death.

The dark clouds revolving around the mind can be depressing. It is up to a person how they shoo the dark clouds away so the Sun can shine happily again. It is the time when everything feels irritating and you just don’t feel like doing anything. Deep inside there is a realisation that it’s just simply waste of time and you are the one who has to put that realisation to action. It requires will power. Just take an initiative. It’s easy to say than do. But trust me, the same is happening to me. Just waiting for the storm to get over. It’s even more frustrating when you forcefully do a work but that is the first step.

I may find the idiom contradicting and not so true but there is no harm in trying. I guess the storm will be over soon and I will see the Sun shining again.

Paper Towns

This blog is inspired from the book ‘Paper Towns’ by ‘John Green’. The novel is about a girl named Margo.

Paper Town is the fake town created by map makers. They put fake bridges and landmarks to ensure that their work hasn’t been copied.

The concept put me into deep thinking. Do humans have tendency to create their own paper town? Does every person creates his own world of expectations, perceptions etc?

Do words have God in them?

I was reading ‘Brida’ by ‘Paulo Coelho’ yesterday. The novel was so captivating that I finished it in a day. His books always does this to me. Whenever I pick up a book by him, it feels as if I entered a magical words. The best part is the language, so simple yet elegant and beautifully written. The beauty of his novels is awestrucking. I do agree the way it ended felt incomplete and didn’t reach expectations but he enlightened us with ways of life.

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Utopian Dreams

Writing about dreams is one of my favorite topic. It’s actually every aspiring person’s favorite topic. But sometimes we have tendency of dreaming something or imagining a pitch perfect situation which is only possible in a Utopian world. Dreaming big is never wrong. Actually it is good. If you will set high standards, you may not land on it but maybe somewhere near it which is better than average and regular goal.

This game of life may put you into different scenarios. But it’s never bad to take up challenges and stand up to them. We all dream about everything being perfect and also imagine the scenario in our mind, the series of things that will and should occur. If the case wasn’t as we imagined, it may seem like a state of dystopia. Disappointment is a natural psychological stress bound to every single human. It’s totally normal to feel it and go through it. Everything can’t go as expected. Maybe this is the reason why they say, “expectations lead to disappointment”. The idea of quote is entirely from what we understand. It actually means that one should be self contented.

Being self contended is not an easy task as even economics say that human wants are unlimited. There is no limit to the desires of a human being. Maybe that’s why there is a difference between human being and “being human“. Maybe our desires sometimes turn us into narcissist monster. Self contentment is the state of being happy with what all one has.

Sometimes, our dreams may not turn into reality. But that doesn’t mean one should not try for impossible. Creating a utopian society is the ultimate goal.

Writing Free Blogs

Free blogging? It isn’t bad…

 

WordPress is an amazing platform for blogging to bring people together and let out their thoughts. Blogging is the art of writing which recess true inner self.

I tried blogging for first time three years ago. I started with a blog named sparkleupyourlyf.  I posted about some DIY recipes and it was really popular. I think I’m pretty good at it. But the posts later hardly got views. I got demotivated. As 15 year old back then maybe I expected quick results and that was bad idea. I also started blogging at blogspot by the name life thunders. I think they shut my blog but it did manage to get 60 views in a few months. Maybe I was trying too hard and rather than finding happiness while doing it I was running after success. Maybe that lead to failure because I wasn’t enjoying it. This time I started with this blog. I named it vibrance because it brings me joy and I do it out of happiness.

 

I had no idea when I wrote my first post what will happen to this blog but this time I kept writing and I love it. It gives me joy to write and know that I’m improving and getting to know more and more when I see posts from my fellow bloggers. Every time a person follows me it gives me so much joy. My last post received maximum likes and I was so happy.

Writing free blogs can be quite challenging. Many bloggers start bloggers with only motive of earning money. I did too and it didn’t work out. I salute to successful bloggers who still write free blogs and their content is not affected by it. Writing free blogs isn’t that bad.

I don’t mind writing for free today because this time I’m positive and I believe in myself that in a few years this blog will do great. Just need support of my lovely followers. Thank you to every viewer.

Happy Reading 🙂