Do We Really Need Validation?

Validation, basically meaning recognition or declaration that a person’s feelings or/and ideas are worthy. It can also mean seeking others approval. But do we really need to be approved by others? Doesn’t every human has a different mind with different views?

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We live in the world of HYPOCRISY. We see and hear people making wise statements daily but never notice the hypocrisy in that. I read the quote “Finding oneself in the approval of others is called “self murder” ‘. If that’s so then why do the same people seek approval. I’m not complaining about hearing someone’s opinions or suggestions. We should respect everyone’s views regardless we agree or not. But don’t let others views put you down. At the end every person is different with an individual mind. If it wasn’t the case then every place would be ‘Land Of Cards’ like in the story of Rabindranath Tagore’s “Tashar Desh”. We are our own masters because it is said ‘Life Is Too Valuable To Live Like Everyone Else’.

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Insecurity and criticism are the root causes of validation. It’s not wrong to criticize yourself as a person is the worst critic of himself but it’s not fine either to criticize yourself all the time. Criticism is well explained in my blog. Similarly, insecurity can put you in the same situation. And, when a person is insecure, he goes for validation to rectify the solution.

Just keep in mind, you can be your worst critic but that shouldn’t let others to validate you. I agree some people need to be validated but if your thoughts aren’t respected and are ridiculed, it’s okay. But if your thoughts are against society and are against humanity then you have no right to seek or even expect validation.

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Happy Reading 🙂

 

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Author: vvibrance

I am an aspiring writer and entrepreneur. I hope to launch a successful blog and clothing line one day soon. So this blog contains some basic theories from 18 year old mind. Suggestions are welcome. Happy reading :)

5 thoughts on “Do We Really Need Validation?”

  1. The need for validation is an almost universal human condition. Humans are social animals and we need the approval of others to build our own self-image. For some, it is more important than others. A normal spectrum of humanity includes everything from rugged individualists who don’t give a flying fart what the world thinks to complete conformists who have to be told how to feel and think. I believe it is a function of how secure you are in your own judgment. This may be an inherited trait but it can certainly be powerfully influenced by your environment.

    I tend towards being an individualist but I find extreme individualism to be as obnoxious as extreme conformity. To go thru life without wanting another person’s approval is a dangerous thing. It can make you a sociopath. Needing constant validation makes you easy to manipulate and is just as dangerous.

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